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Will They Drag You Down?
Analyze the Handwriting to Find Out
Are you the ambitious, driven type that likes getting things done? When you set your mind to a goal or a chore, are you finished faster than most people? Do you put more care and persistence into your work than the average Joe? If so, you’ll likely appreciate someone more like yourself than at the opposite end of the spectrum.
One way to find out is by analyzing their handwriting. There are several ways to spot signs of work ethic in a handwritten sample.
PROCRASTINATION
If you, the busy bee, start dating someone who prefers to “vegetate”, you may find yourself annoyed with their apparent laziness. On the flip side, you may find yourself assuming their habit of self-indulgence. After all, it’s easier. But guilt will set in for losing your habit of activity.
If you consider your work ethic one of your most important traits, you will want to be aware of procrastination tendencies in a potential date.
Check out the “t’s” in this sample:
Notice the “t’s” in “procrastinate” above are only crossed half way. The t-bars have fallen short of their goal and hang on the left of the t-stem. This person is too lazy to even finish crossing their “t”. This means they’re likely to have a hard time finishing most of their projects at home.
They’d like to get away with it at work too, but the need to keep a job may overrule this trait. But the procrastinator will probably only do the minimum required to keep up appearances and keep their job.
Here we have more lazy-t’s:
LATENT DEFEAT MENTALITY
Another sign of a person who can drag you down is a lowercase “y” with an ending stroke that heads downward:
See how the loop of the “y” starts to come back up, then crosses itself only to turn down again.
People with a latent defeat mentality normally do not realize they avoid success. They in fact will work very hard to get what they want, but somehow find ways to sabotage themselves. Usually they will give up at the last minute. Sometimes they give up because they believe they’re not worthy of winning. In some cases the person feels that if they succeed they will have to continue to work very hard to maintain what they’ve won.
Whatever the cause of their defeat, they will set themselves up to never finish those projects that would help them achieve “fame and glory”, or at least a sense of having followed through and accomplished something of merit.
When looking for defeat be sure the end stroke of the “y” turns down. These do not count:
These turned-down “y’s” definitely do indicate a fear of getting ahead:
Here’s a sample of someone who has both down-turned y-terminals and a couple of procrastination t-bars:
Remember, the more often you see a trait occur in a handwriting sample, the stronger the trait affects the writer. Do you think this writer fears winning more than they procrastinate? I’d say so, because we can see 6 downturned “y’s” and 3 downturned “g’s”, which count almost as much as y’s, and just 2 lazy t-bars. (Note that the y’s terminal stroke must head downward, not sideways or up.)
SADNESS, DESPAIR
A depressed personality will often find their handwriting heading downhill, like this:
Try to see several samples of your potential lover’s handwriting over time. If just one happens to head slightly downhill, it’s likely that they were just sad at the moment of the writing, or that day. If all the samples you see have this feel, you’d better hold back in your relationship until you get a good look at their personality.
People who suffer continual depression can not only ruin your day, your month, and your life, they can pass on that gene to their kids. So be very careful before committing to this person.
One of the best traits you can find in handwriting is the opposite of despair is optimism. This person can’t be easily brought down, even by the most depressing circumstances. They recognize that no matter how awful things seem today, tomorrow offers a glimmer of hope. Here’s a good example of optimistic handwriting:
If you’re the energetic, diligent, upbeat type and want to stay that way, remember these three drag-down traits that can show in a date’s handwriting:
Laziness, Procrastination
Found in half-crossed t-bars
Latent Defeat Mentality
Found in a downturn of the letter “y”
Sadness, Despair
Found in a downhill baseline
To your dating success!
Kristina Powell, CHA
I mention his markings because apparently in Japan when they find a cat with a Geisha pattern decorating its fur, they believe it’s the reincarnation of an ancestor.
They take the cat to a temple and give it a wonderful, protected life. Sounds like Gritty, aka Mr. Spoiledy-Pants. He couldn’t be more adored in Japan.
I wish I could post his picture. He’s somethin’ handsome, and quite the little devil.
Okay, now that I’ve gotten rid of that potential distraction, on to my favorite topic, Personality Profiling.
I’m a handwriting analyst and a face reader. I don’t have much natural “intuition” per se, so I wanted something else to help me “get” people.
At my local library I was ambling along to a section in the back when I passed a few books on handwriting analysis. I did a double-take and reached out for a yellow book with a red title that just popped out at me.
I don’t remember the title now, but I thought it was too cool to think that you could figure someone out by looking at their writing.
I was skeptical, but it reminded me of a date I had with a fellow who analyzed my writing over lunch. It intrigued me, but he said so much about me I could hardly take it all in. So at that time I didn’t pursue it.
Seeing this book brought on deja vu. I took it home and started practicing on anyone who dared let me.
The more I studied and analyzed and compared, the less suspicious I was. It takes some study and practice to put what you see in handwriting and faces into a comprehensive picture. If you think of people as being like a collage, not a poster, it’s easy to be ‘off’ when you first get started analyzing. Don’t let that fool you; that’s just inexperience talking. Stay encouraged and that goes away.
After a couple years of studying handwriting and face reading, I realized that romance, dating and relationships were of real interest to me also, so why not combine the two?
Today we often hear about women who end up battered or dead by the hands of some brute they were dating or married to. If only they could’ve seen the handwriting before getting involved! Or read the face and been wary of warning signs. Even taken a photo and some writing to a professional to have them analyzed.
But most people don’t know this option exists. Thus my website.
And to be fair to you fellas, how about helping you discover if a woman you want to date is low energy, or acquisitive or needy, or has a fear of poverty? And would like to you spot the gals who are smart, level-headed, more balanced?
‘Cause whatever your gender you know looks and a hot bod won’t cut it in the long run. Picking someone based on hormones is NOT smart. I help people use their brains as well as their instincts to choose a date.
Anyway, that’s little about me and why I do what I do. I love it. It really helps people to understand each other better.
And there’s nothing like having a fulfilling career, I highly recommend it.
If you’ve gotten this far, here’s something you might appreciate - my response to one of the questions I get the most. (Maybe I am psychic, predicting I’ll get a few Q’s on this and posting it in advance…)
Illegible handwriting seems to get lots of attention. I finally had to write down all the reasons a person might write poorly to save time in sharing.
So, should you date someone with messy handwriting or does it mean they’re cukoo? Should you divorce your wife or husband b/c they write like a slob? (Kidding, just kidding!)
Here’s my take:
Reasons for Messy Handwriting
Copyright 2007 Kristina Powell www.smarterdating.org
(Go ahead and send this to a few friends, just be sure to include my website address.)
There are many explanations – or combinations of reasons – for someone to produce a “messy” or illegible handwriting sample.
Is it because they’re dangerous? A slob? An evil genius?
Those three issues don’t necessarily give themselves away in messiness alone. Here are more viable answers:
1. The writer is writing faster than they are used to.
2. The writer is extremely upset and/or angry.
3. S/he may be helpless in everyday affairs while a genius in some higher subject. Google Karl Marx’s handwriting for an example.
4. The writer is completely absorbed in what they are saying and not whether it is legible.
5. They may be trying to hide something or otherwise purposely trying to mislead.
6. The writer is generally careless, or being deliberately careless.
7. S/he suffers old age.
8. They are trying to write while in motion, during transport (plane, train, auto, hangglider, etc).
9. The writer is ill: they may have the flu, a neurological condition, high/low blood sugar, arm weakness, etc.
10. S/he is too defensive to share his/her true beliefs/reactions/feelings.
11. The writer suffers a mental condition.
12. He or she doesn’t care about communicating with others, for one of two reasons:
a. Notes taken may be for him/herself only (grocery list, class notes, etc.)
b. Has little desire to be understood by others. May be a rule-breaker, unpunctual, indolent, lazy.
Can you think of others? Drop a line with a genuine idea and I may add it to the list.
The best way to find out if any of these conditions apply is to ASK (politely of course). If you can’t ask the writer, asking someone close to them may help.
So it would seem there are some reasons you might avoid dating someone who writes terribly – they may be very dishonest, lazy, kinda rude or self-centered, or mentally or physically ill. Of course, it’s up to you to decide, I’m just the messenger. Good luck!
Kristina
